Darkness and then light…

I feel great tonight but this wasn’t the case over the last week. No I was sicker than I’ve been in a while possibly food poisoning; ate out late Thursday night and yuck!

When I get sick I have learned to rest and rest I did! My husband and I went away at a mineral springs resort we booked a month ago. When I found out it would be half of what I paid I was like I’m going because I can feel bad over there.

So away we went a half an hour away and enjoy a hottub in our room which greatly helped us to really relax and be lazy cuz we never are. We work and work some more and rarely do we take a break. But we did in a big way. And although weird very nice!

Today finally feeling myself again so there went the darkness and now I am back to my routine and boy do I have a lot to do, inner and outer things.

Peace love and joy and light 🌈

Pax

Victoria

death is a mere separation between here and there…

We’ve got a lot to learn about death and once we are dead we don’t have anyway to convey the beauty of heaven back to our loved ones but I know they live on…

I have had some recent wonderful experiences with my dear friend and her deceased husband speaking through me to her on more than one occasion. The veil is thin folks between life and death. When God wants us home we shall not delay. I will not, I will run into Jesus’ arms and throw myself at His feet. And there I shall lay for a while, at peace at last.

This disorder won’t exist in heaven. I will be made whole again. We all will. And if you dont believe I will believe for you. I have faith to spare in large amounts. God is so good at guiding me in all I do.

It has not always been so though. I was a lost child just not that long ago. Chasing experiences like the wind. Hoping for time alone with God in the way I am able to reach Him now. Which is no longer unusual. NO the messages are rare if ever and the peace I have in my heart is lasting.

Now that I know I am an empath and what one is. I can deflect negative energy mentally or with the usage of my crystals. It is wonderful to be in control of my thoughts. Ridding my mind of thoughts that do not serve me or anybody to speak of for that matter.

Life is good these days with a few exceptions. Sick, near death family members and others like my parents living on the prayers of others like fumes from the fire.

Peace, love light and joy to all of you,

pax

Victoria

Mental health tips 102…

Welcome!

You can see my first post on mental health tips 101 here.

But I wanted to add to this blog so here are my best tips on how to keep your mental state in the best state.

Have fun! Make fun, do fun, be fun. Laugh a lot and then laugh till it hurts some more. Make light of the difficulties, make peace with your past. Break loose! There are so many ways!

This week I took my pup to the doggie beach with my family and it was hot and fun and great. tomorrow I am dying my hair with my daughter’s help. Tonight, I sat in the garden and called a friend. She didn’t answer but that’s ok, I still tried to reach out. The idea is to break out of any rut we may be in and even though we might have many chores every day to be sure to include some fun activities in the mix.

Sleep is not overrated. Make a schedule that works for your bodies’ needs and stick to it. I have finally mastered my sleep schedule. I go to sleep between 11:30pm and 12:30am and wake up at 8am-9am. I do some of my best thinking at night when the house is quiet and everyone else is asleep except my son. But we have some great late night chats or rather philosophical discussions. It’s great.

Finding a hobby that works for you. I have already talked so much about my favorite hobbies that I will not repeat them all but gardening is still the highest ranking. Still trying to get to learning the guitar but we shall see. There it sits by itself. so sad.

Have a mantra! Mine is I am good, I am holy, I am humbled by my missteps. I never try to hurt anyone, I do a lot of good in the world, but I mess up sometimes and am learning to love my shadows and make peace with them.

I emit to the universe what it is I desire. And sit back and watch the miracles occur. It is amazing how one person can make an imprint on their own future. Try it!

Write! Journal, blog, text, whatever medium works for you. get your thoughts out, it is cathartic!

well that is 102

blessings,

pax

Victoria

Mental health tips 101~

In the spirit of mental health day yesterday, I wish to blog about what makes me feel ok especially in these unprecedented times. I like making lists. Feel free to copy mine or share how you track the best ways to keep your mental health state sharp.

FOOD- healthy tasty food, helps the brain and body to be in sync. Helps spiritually, mentally and physically on many levels. ate healthy today and feeling better

exercise- getting regular exercise benefits the brain, especially my mental outlook on the day. Keeps me fit and often when I walk I pray my rosary…

intellectual stimulation- keeps the brain functioning at higher levels, not just speaking of teaching institutions, but of reading good books which for me means many classics but also metaphysical. Our brains need stimulation beyond facebook and instagram and video games (which are ok in moderation). Being on my phone is a challenge or not being on there rather. So much to say here but keeping the list moving.

learning about my emotions- and trusting them. Today I am hopeful for many reasons and joyful because my birthday is coming up.

connections- with loved ones, strangers, animals, plants and all of Mother Earth but most importantly with God or whatever you call the Source of all that is good.

meds- take em and don’t stop without your doctor’s supervision. I know I need mine the rest of my life but taking supplements now that greatly increase my productivity levels.

avoiding toxic people and situations- easy for me as I am mainly a homebody. I have learned how to deal with negative family members, just have them talk about themselves without any judgement. Keeps the focus off of my life and people love to talk about themselves.

Can’t think of anymore but these are my most important thoughts in terms of taking care of my mental health.

peace, love joy and light to all! Welcome all countries and peoples around the globe!

pax

Victoria

Super self-care to celebrate mental health day…

Today is a special day of the year for many of us. How are you celebrating?

Me~SUPER SELF-CARE

which includes tidying and minor chores first and then taking some time for me doing things I enjoy. Gardening, cleaning (I’m weird that I like to clean), coloring my city, a long hot bath, chilling and eating good healthy food and watching a movie tonight! Might slip in some yoga and always always meditation in my woman cave of which all may enter freely.

I live with three other people and they all visit me when I am in my meditation room doing what i do.

a walk is on the horizon and came to fruition…

I walk a lot with my daughter and it doesn’t matter where we walk, just being with her gives me great comfort and stress relief. It is the same with my two boys. I suppose I am lucky like that to have good relationships with my three children. I actually have 5 children but two are in heaven…

So to end this day I am going out to dinner with my husband of 28 1/2 years to a fancy restaurant. Got almost everything done as planned, but didn’t take a bath, but it’s ok, can’t do it all.

Mental health day is great and all but the fact that I am not feeling my best today mentally is irksome. I have had some great days recently though so there’s that. Must be grateful for what I am and what I accomplish even if it isn’t done perfectly.

I didn’t feel like doing one single thing today but did it anyway because it is a habit now. Sitting for hours on end just doesn’t serve me anymore.

I feel off balance for sure. Hoping to find my groove but may need a new day. Today I got woken up early so went back to bed and slept in later than I like. A sleep schedule is so important…

Here’s to new better days, celebrating that we are alive, even when we aren’t grateful for anything.

peace, love and light and joy

pax

Victoria

Musings of the moment…

A good day for sure…learning to navigate murky waters.

Looking for the good in all people, places and things isn’t that hard if one considers the life that God gave us and it is up to us to fulfill our mission, whatever that may be…

For me I like to help out the homeless because I was once homeless too. I remember when a kind stranger would give me some spare change, while I was living on the streets of NYC. I would always be so grateful to buy that slice of pizza. My meal for the day if I was lucky.

Still not sure if I was pre-schizophrenia at that time or not. I was 18 at the time but I engaged in many dangerous behaviours from 13 to 20. Then got married to the most wonderful man, had three kids and home-schooled them but then developed schizophrenia at age 36, which was in 2006.

I have tried working but it never works out so I am on permanent disability since 2015. I also earned my masters in psychology and bachelors in sociology circa 2010 post diagnosis.

Life these days consists of lots of at home time. Connections are the most important thing to me, with my family and friends and strangers, with my pups and all animals and nature….

I don’t read much but enjoy a good show and love working with crystals. Life is too short for regrets and today I have no regrets. Missteps I like to call them but embracing these shadows and trying to live the life God intended.

I don’t hear from God anymore, which the silence is welcome but do still wonder how life would have been different if this or that…

Trying to spread positivity at every level from self love to patience with myself first and then others. Embracing who I am because I am the only “ME”.

peace love and joy and now light to all

pax

Victoria

Psychotic episode from 2007…

Things were intensifying. Many messages and late nights feeling the heavy presence of God. No drugs, no alcohol, but some stress of my grandma’s passing may have induced schizophrenia/schizoaffective disorder. Dx’ed in 2008.

Things other people take for granted became next to impossible like going to the store. Visits from God at these times or my disorder in full psychotic state, not sure really but it was pretty cool except for the time when~

I was walking down the spice packet aisle at my local grocery store and suddenly the command came to buy one of each. I ignored it at first but suddenly I found myself melting to the store if I did not do this weird thing. I hate to ever cause a scene so after several attempts to ignore what I thought to be God testing my obedience, I did it. I felt the paralyzing of my limbs when I tried to ignore the strong inner command.

$200 later I was leaving the store with bags of spice packets half of which I gave to a friend who I believed had shared psychotic disorder. Paralyzing, commands and testing are not of God I believe. I know now it was this dastard bleeping disorder. And luckily enough, do not have psychotic experiences since started taking goterpy cbd oil full spectrum the past few years.

I voluntarily entered UCLA in January of 2008 and the minute I started taking anti-psychotics meds the symptoms began to cease. The messages stopped mostly. God does break through at times in important things such as certain friendships and others I get the green light.

I must now release these terrible memories and do some cord cutting with my quartz crystal tonight, when the house is quiet…

Wishing you all recovery, peace and love

pax

Victoria

Learned mirth…

I have not always been a person full of mirth, but have read that it helps with mental state and go me always trying to improve my mental state.

Having a mental disorder can be challenging and the last few days I have been really trying hard to keep it together. But ever since covid hit, I have done so well despite the constant changes in all our lives and the many difficulties brought about by many factors many we are well aware of. Some of my own internal struggles have been surfacing.

I don’t have a therapist right now, but do have people to talk to. Tried a few but having a master’s in psychology makes me very picky and being an empath makes it hard too to find someone who can help me.

What does this have to do with mirthfulness? Well, I have decided to make it a part of my day to find the lightness in everything, through making jokes or just doing creative fun things that bring others joy.

Right now I was messing with my husband and it was great. Just one example of making a hard situation easier by making light of it. It really does help. I watch Jimmy Fallon often and love his jokes and demeanor while telling them. I listen to concerts when the singer talks about positivity about their music and life and my unconcious is having fun processing these listenings and making them a part of who I am.

Don’t take life so seriously I have heard many times in my life and finally I’m not, by choice.

I am sick of my duties lately though, oh I wish I could joke about that. My husband gets to go camping and I don’t go anywhere far or for a few days so we have plans to fix the pop up trailer and go camping before winter. This makes me happy but I want to go somewhere now. Still impatient, yep that’s me.

Must share this as it cracks me up to think about it but the other night I totally scared my adult daughter. She was mad at first and it wasn’t entirely intentional but gave us a good laugh.

What makes you laugh?

pax

Victoria

Events can be powerful…

My time in NY was filled with various emotions. And today being 9/11 it is fitting that I have been writing about my time of homelessness in NYC. I often do that, write about something that I don’t connect until later. Such a sad day.

My time in NYC taught me a lot; not to take for granted that God has my back, not putting myself in dangerous positions anymore and to forgive myself for the things I did when I was pretty much insane.

My mom thinks that I had schizophrenia all my life or at least since 8th grade but I am not so sure about that really. I rebelled and ran away first to AZ and then to NYC. I was an atheist and did not want to live one more minute with my controlling parents. I was ready to see the world.

In fact I did, I visited Rhode Island and Philadelphia, New Jersey and much of New York. It was fun seeing these new places but I have no desire to return, even though I do in my dreams.

I was hoping for a release of something by writing about it and it did help.

I must fight negative thoughts about the time in my life when I didn’t give a flying fuck about anything. I must forgive and try to forget to make room for positive experiences even though not traveling at all right now.

It may have been prodomal symptoms at age 13-20 but who can say for sure. Once I started having children, I gave up my crazy life for the most part and really settled down. But then after getting really religious, I was given the gift of schizophrenia at age 36, so that is a long time in between to wait for the schizophrenia to arrive I think at least.

When did your symptoms begin? OR is it hard to narrow down like mine. Hoping for some feedback.

Feel free to email me at: victoriamariealonso@yahoo.com with any comments on this or any topic,

As usual

pax

Victoria

Releasing negativity slowly…

So many mistakes or missteps I like to call them…

I would never intend to hurt anyone; but yet this part of my body, my mouth, says things sometimes that just are not helpful. I am not perfect, and trying not to be anymore. Letting things go is what I need to do.

But my OCD along with my schizophrenia/schizoaffective disorder prevents this at times. But I am learning as I go.

The problem is that I joke around a lot and sometimes the truth in the joke is just not a good vibe…

But I believe in the power of the mind even though mine may have a disorder. I choose to release these thoughts when they arise and just repeat the mantra, I am good, I am holy, i am humbled. And then think about something good and positive

I surround myself with positive energy. My son is a huge positive force in this house and is spreading his positivity getting paid to play video games on twitch. I observe at times with his permission and i am just so pleased with how he interacts with others and always tries his hardest to answer all the comments. He is an inspiration to me and the many who pay to watch him play.

I don’t need money yet today find myself in murky waters due to switching banks. new bank has a hold on all checks. Today is a holiday, so no one I can call. Life can still be challenging for sure but doing much better these days than ever.

So much helps me!

I am finally free from religion and loving my new blog http://www.allformycreator.com peace love and joy. It charts my spiritual progress or interests as I navigate through new ideas mainly alchemy, the physical, spiritual and mental aspects of life. Felt like this blog needs to focus more on the disorder where my other one is all about God and connecting with Him though nature, animals, people and the mundane.

Check it out if you are so inclined.

Back to topic.

RELEASING NEGATIVITY AS YOU READ THIS

there is so much negativity in having a mental health or brain health disorder. so much misinformation and stigma. it sucks really but must rise above. The fact that I can’t work a real job does not mean that others cannot. I work hard around my house and gardens and manage some personal real estate.

Its mainly fun for the most part but days like today that are hot leave me feeling drained and bored. Nothing is fun! But life is not supposed to be about being fun all the time. That would be boring really. Imagine living at Disneyland 24/7 that would get old and would lose its magic.

So I am taking this time today to do some reflection on my routine. With covid so much has changed, so must roll with the changes. I’m a work in progress and it just keeps getting better. As long as I can stay out of the hospital and function well I will be content.

As to the negativity I fight, well that was learned from my mom. I must unlearn it and fight this pattern that has held and served its purpose for long enough.

Positive thoughts, vibes, prayers and peace to you all!

Pax

Victoria